Some of you must be aware that I recently changed my status on Facebook from “In a Relationship” to “Single”. It may be a trite way to inform my friends of the change, but it beats the alternatives. It’s hard enough to go through a breakup without having to tell every single person who know you as a ‘good couple’ just why this happened and how. Especially when you are the breakee rather than the breaker, It’s hard enough to accept the loss of your relationship, even without friends you trust discussing and questioning the decision that wasn’t even your decision. And who wants to stand around lamenting the past?
Of course, some people would take the usefulness of this feature to the extreme. Just like middle school, it eliminates the need to directly tell someone else your intentions. In middle school, you could always have a friend do the actual ‘breaking’ for you. Or, my personal favorite, there’s the phone breakup in which you curse the breakee for being a ‘dog’ and other various things just to show how serious you are about breaking all ties. Some people might even use Facebook to avoid those delicate conversations about moving from casual dating to a full-fledged relationship. Someday, somewhere, people might actually be proposing marriage on Facebook. Creepy.
Still, it was pretty surprising to see the results. People I hadn’t spoken to in months called or messaged to offer support and condolences. Three of Mike’s friends he hadn’t told about the breakup yet only found out about it through my status change (his profile still was listed as ‘in a relationship’ at that point cause he’s a bum who doesn’t update his status). And it was an easy way to shout out to my friends, “I need immediate and serious distraction from my own thoughts,” without having to say much of anything. But the best part of it all is that I can still laugh at the gossipy quality to this useful little tool. It’s still a little prideful to proclaim my new single status so quickly, and a little cheesy to feel sad about the poor broken heart pieces I showed to the world through online emoticons. But if I can still laugh, I must be doing pretty good.