Inappropriate for the office, and yet so funny.

My boyfriend sent me a someecard today.  It made me laugh out loud.  It made me laugh hard enough that some of my nearby co-workers wanted to know what the joke was.  Fortunately my boss was away at a meeting, so he was not one of the ones I shared it with. I really do think there should be SOME limits on the employee/employer relationship.

Sometimes I’m not a person who is too good with limits.  If you claim personal space, I might feel obliged to invade it.  If I’ve only just met you, I may make ridiculous, occasionally witty comments that could seem mean.  I may ask invasive questions or even be physically abrupt.  All of these things are due to action with little or no thought, which is something I’m generally good at.

Occasionally I am inappropriate at work.  true, we have a very relaxed environment, where people make jokes and laugh a lot and are genuinely concerned about each other.  But occasionally I cross the line.  Like promising someone to stab them with my cake fork if they’re not careful at an employee birthday celebration in the office.  Or telling one of my co-workers that we’d love to see her two-month-old daughter more than ‘just once’ when she brought the girl in recently – and then glaring at my boss, who has yet to bring in his one-year-old daughter more than once.

What is this lack of judgment that hinders me from realizing the consequences of my actions until afterwards?  Is it my total, brutal honesty?  Or a complete lack of sympathy for others?  And how do I make it stop?  Really, it’s like an out-of-control freight train being barricaded by toothpicks.


I don’t follow politics.  I have more interest in the fact that apples came from the plains of Central Asia than the fact that China and Russia are now struggling to secure the energy resources beneath those same plains.  If you told me that China and Russia share political stances on “opposition to Kosovo’s independence and U.S. missile defense plans, and taking a similar approach to the Iran nuclear issue”, I would have very little idea what the details of those shared ideas entailed.

However, there are a few things I do know.  I know that at one time, when Communism was still young in China, there were strong ties between the two governments.  I know it because Chinese schoolchildren still study Stalin, in addition to Marx and Mao.  I know that at one time, Russia was seen as China’s economic partner and friend.  I know it because of meeting one witty and gnarled old man, who tried to speak to me in Russian due to my fair face.  He had studied Russian as a child because it was a means to economic independence, just as English is now, though it did not serve him well.  I know, according to the article referenced earlier, that China and Russia were cold war enemies, but I would’ve never guessed it otherwise from my own experience.

And yet, there is something going on between them now.  And yet they are both countries covering huge tracts of land, both suffering from some of the economic impacts of such vast and varied countries.  And yet they are both worried about the unilateral power that we, the U.S., have in world affairs.  Even if we are doing a good job, is that kind of power right?

With renewed political contacts between these two powers, the focus of power may shift.  My guess would be, however, that economics will play a stronger role than political force (isn’t that what communism says, after all?).  The Chinese still study English, to trade with us and others.  A true power shift will begin when we all race to study Chinese – not merely a few in colleges and upper middle class prep schools, but many of us, in middle school and elementary.  Then the logistics of China as a huge, almost unlimited market for our goods will have been realized.